I have a coaster in my car’s cup holder that stuck with me some years ago when I bought it on the fly. It reminded me of something my mom would have given me, something she would have said. The coaster reads: “Do more of what makes you happy.” Just looking at it brings me joy because it’s like a permission slip to do that thing that makes me happy. Of course, I’m in!
Naturally, the saying makes perfect sense. If something makes you happy, doing more of it would make you even happier, right?
Except there’s a mini-problem with this happy mantra. To feel happier by doing more of something, you have to know what you need to be doing. You need to understand what makes you happy in the first place. You may be someone who knows exactly what makes you happy. Maybe it’s reading or visiting the beach or crafting. Something may be jumping to the forefront of your mind right now. Pay attention! Write it down! That’s what you need to do more to grow your happiness muscle and feel happy more of the time.
For me, it’s so many things, but the one thing that always comes to mind is writing. Be it this narrative to you, a self-help piece, or even a thriller, I feel beyond happy. I’m blissful when I’m writing.
If nothing is jumping out at you, no worries. Figuring out what makes you happy may take some thought and a little work. I know, I know…doing the work isn’t always easy, and it doesn’t always feel good, which is the opposite of what we’re going for here with happiness. It’s easy to abandon this concept altogether and just go about your daily life, not prioritizing happiness. But once you know what it is, happiness comes easily. Just do that thing, and you’ll feel happy without effort.
How do you figure this out? It’s easier than you think. Whenever you’re doing something you enjoy, take notice. See how you feel. If you feel like time is flying by too fast, and you could do this thing all day long, you’ve got a winner! The key is to pay attention to how you feel and remind yourself of what brings you joy.
You know, deep down inside, but life got in the way, and you forgot. Don’t let something that brings you joy, no matter how insignificant it may seem, fall to the wayside. Give it the time and attention you need to feel good. It’s self-care. Self-love. Self-preservation. Take care of yourself from the inside out.
No matter how busy you are, do more of what makes you happy. I’m here to cheer you on all the way!
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