Be Present In The Moment
I lost my beautiful mom six years ago, and life has never been the same. We shared many long, heartfelt conversations in our decades together. One mantra repeated over many of my adult years was for me to “stop and smell the roses.”
I’ve always been a high-energy person, just like my mom, so she understood how I operated. But unlike her, I never took the time to slow down and appreciate life. It wasn’t until she was diagnosed with cancer that I realized how short life really was and how important it was to spend time with those you love.
Not to just get together, but to look into their eyes. Listen with your heart and WITHOUT JUDGMENT when they speak. BE PRESENT with them in every sense of the word. It was difficult for me to do because, as naïve as it was, I believed the people I loved would live forever. I chose to passively ignore another mantra of my mom’s: I took people for granted.
I never imagined I’d lose them. I couldn’t fathom it. Who could? It’s not something we want to think about. Life is unpredictable, and just when you think things are moving right along, something stops you in your tracks.
I still hear my mom’s voice in my head saying, “Stop and smell the roses, Kris. You’re always running. It’s not healthy. You need to relax.” She was right about so many things, but this piece of advice still resonates.
Nothing Else Matters
Do you stop to smell the roses? Or is it only after something happens, and you skid to a stop, that you pay attention to the little things? The little things, like the feeling of a loved one’s hand in yours, ARE the big things in life. We get so busy and distracted with what we think is essential when it’s the tiniest moment we treasure MOST.
Stopping to smell the roses isn’t just about spending time with those you love. It’s about being present in the moments of life. ALL the moments. You never know when a moment will become a memory. Memories, like all the pictures my mom took that I didn’t realize (at the time) would be so precious to me, are all we have. Our life is series of present moments, one after another, year after year. If we don’t seize them while they’re happening, have we lived at all? Or are we just chasing some future so when we arrive there, we chase another?
I’ve lived this way, chasing the future, my whole life. Because of it, I lost out on precious moments that became memories. I wish I could go back in time to retrieve them, but they’re gone forever. I took little things for granted, and I’ll NEVER get those days back.
There’s Time Yet
If you’ve lived your life like me, not living in the moment, you can make a change. You can CHOOSE to live in the moment, appreciating everything and everyone. You can decide today NEVER to take life for granted again.
There’s time yet. Build your most precious memories out of the little things in life. Find joy in every moment. Be grateful. Don’t take anyone for granted.
REMEMBER to stop and smell those roses.
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